How many thoughts go through our heads throughout the course of a day?
It’s a ridiculous amount.
Could anyone possibly know what we’re thinking about at any given time?
Even with all the fancy technology available in today’s world, the answer is a resounding no. It’s not even remotely possible.
When it comes to others, for some inexplicable reason, we think we know what they are thinking. We delude ourselves in pondering others’ feelings and thoughts toward us, but there’s no way to know for sure.
Self-centeredly, we believe we are the only possible cause of another’s emotions. We narcissistically read into their responses, as if we are the only possible explanation for their facial expressions, reactions, and attitudes.
Fortunately, we are not that important. Others have as many things going on in their lives, relationships, and minds as we do.
We’re just not that special.
I know seeing this written may seem silly. It’s about as ludicrous as considering that someone else might know what we are thinking. It’s not just farcical, it’s irresponsible and offensive.
Consider the infinite possibilities of what we may be thinking about in one moment, including that of which we actually are; no one could truly read another’s mind.
When we perceive that someone is judging, disappointed, or angry with us, it is important to be empathetic. We must consider. Our words and actions can have profound effect on others.
That’s more about us then it is about them.
We must be cognizant. We should carefully consider our responses and interactions.
I challenge everyone to cease assuming. Instead, we should deal with the facts.
Were we being an asshole?
Did we say something that was insensitive?
Did we neglect our manners or commitments?
If the answer is yes to any or all of these questions, then it is possible that we made the other person not like us, or at least act as though they don’t.
Being an asshole has obvious repercussions.
We are in control of how we acknowledge and respond to recognizing we acted as such.
Additionally, we are in charge of course-correcting ourselves and moving forward.
We cannot control another’s reactions, or lack thereof, any more than we can read their mind.
The next time we feel embarrassed, judged, or have the general perception of negativity being hurled our way, I recommend first stopping and assessing ourselves.
It’s crucial to recognize the infinitely possible reasons for another’s behavior. They can have any number of thoughts and feelings.
It’s just as likely, if not more so, that their attitude or actions have absolutely nothing to do with us.
Reminding ourselves of this will make for less internal stress.
It will limit the distractions we create that prevent clear and focused action.
In conclusion, we should remain steadfast in our consideration of everyone else.
We should also worry a whole lot less about what others might possibly be thinking, because there’s no way to truly know.